We all love our children! (Or at least I hope we all do)
But there are times, sometimes too many times, when we just don’t have the energy or desire to deal with their drama.
It’s okay, we’ve all been there. Looking back, we were probably funny!
Sometimes we feel isolated and desperate. Sometimes we just want someone else to deal with this.
Sometimes we want to drink wine!
And every time we feel like we are not 110% there for our kids we feel guilty later.
No more feeling guilty about being tired, overwhelmed or just not caring at that moment.
When those times occur here are some great ideas for getting paused the current drama to the next calm.
There will always be a new storm brewing. Hopefully some of these ideas can help you learn how to put on a rain coat and surf the waves through the next storm.
I found these 7 funny tips and thought I’d share them here….
“1. Take care of your own needs. Kids aren’t usually cranky and irrational without a reason. Maybe they’re hungry or skipped their nap. But the same goes for parents, so before you flip your lid, make sure there’s not an underlying reason contributing to your flaring temper. Maybe you have an uncomfortable wedgie or a stabby underwire. Maybe you haven’t had a carb in three days, and everything that isn’t bread makes you angry. Maybe Netflix went down just as you were trying to watch Gilmore Girls. Whatever it is, make sure you’re taken care of. It makes it easier to take care of everybody else, especially when they’re being brats.
2. Put yourself in time-out. Time-out is a concept usually reserved for the very young, but ain’t nothin’ wrong with removing yourself from a quickly escalating situation until you calm down. It’s the adult thing to do. Find a locking door, and close yourself in for a few minutes. Even if that locking door is found on the bathroom…of the gas station down the street.
3. Dip into your stash. While you’re in your self-imposed time-out, break out the good stuff. That’s right, your hidden stash of chocolate. Revel in the delight that comes from knowing the kids aren’t getting any. Ha, ha, ha!
4. Flip them off behind their backs. Remember when you were a kid, and you used to stick your tongue out at your mom behind your closed door (because you didn’t dare do that shit to her face)? Same concept, only now you’re the parent. Wait until their backs are turned, then flip them an impassioned bird. Mature? No. Satisfying? Abso-freakin’-lutely.”
I LOVE THIS NEXT ONE!
“5. Pretend they’re someone else’s kids. When your kid has a friend over who acts less than desirable, you can’t scream at them — even if they deserve it. All you can do is issue a calm but stern warning to stop being an asshat immediately (I’m paraphrasing, but you get the idea). So if your own kids are treading on thin ice and you feel your anger bubbling up to the surface, practice some internal role-playing. Pretend they’re just visiting, and you can’t yell at them, and then fantasize wildly about sending them home to their real parents.
6. Stay off Facebook. If you feel disillusioned by your children’s ill behavior, do not — I repeat, do not — get on Facebook. Because it’s basically a land where everyone’s kids are better than yours. It’s not an ideal time to read a boastful post about how Betty Jean’s daughter won some national spelling bee when you’ve just spent the past hour removing gum from the dog’s fur.”
And this last one is all about the long term karma…
“Take solace in the fact that someday they’ll know how it feels. How many times did you hear your own mom say, “I hope you have one just like you!” Well, you did. During their worst moments, your children are karmically rewarding you for all the crap you put your own parents through. And someday when they’re grown, you’ll have the last laugh as they come to you and wail, “I can’t handle these kids!” When that day comes, just hand them a box of good chocolate and say, “Ha, ha, ha!” But only on the inside.”
I loved this article over at www.scarymommy.com
And here’s a video to help put everything into perspective.
Next time your child acts up or has a meltdown think back to this video and you’ll be reminded that your kids aren’t so bad!